The work we do as therapists is not about teaching our clients to avoid conflict but about learning how to negotiate interpersonal conflict with skill, care and awareness. When I sit down to work with a family, I often ask how they make repairs when they experience a conflict – or, more simply, how does your family say I’m sorry? The answers are as diverse and varied as the families themselves.

You may have come across the terms “attachment style” or “attachment theory” at some point in your child’s, or even your own, therapy journey. However, you may not have a thorough understanding about what attachment actually means. Attachment theory was first developed in the mid-1940s by psychologist and psychiatrist John Bowlby and was later expanded upon with research conducted by psychologist Mary Ainsworth. A simple definition of attachment is “an emotional bond with another person.” (Buescher, 2022) Simply put, “attachment style” refers to the different ways in which we connect and develop emotional bonds with other human beings. Since attachment can be a focal point of the therapeutic process, I want to dive into this topic a little deeper.

If you are a parent staring down the barrel of the decision on whether or not to medicate your child for ADHD, it is very likely that you are feeling overwhelmed. I have found that many of the articles and studies we research do not include what families can really expect when they embark on that journey, or what they can expect if they don’t. Many studies and statistics that state medication treatment in addition to therapy for ADHD is very beneficial. I, too, am a believer in this idea, but that was not always the case, and of course every child, family, and situation is different; this is really important to keep in mind as you read this post. I want to share with you some information about ADHD and treatment thereof, as well as my personal journey of growing up while trying to figure out how to manage my diagnosis.

Safety is always at the forefront of a caregiver’s mind. We openly discuss safety with children such as: don’t cross the road without looking both ways, don’t talk to strangers, wear a helmet when you ride your bike, don’t run with scissors, and on and on. Discussing consent and bodily autonomy with your children should be as discussed as reminding them to put on sunblock.

If you are depressed you are living in the past.

If you are anxious you are living in the future.

If you are at peace you are living in the present.

-Lao Tzu

The quote above is one of my absolute favorites. I often wish this quote had found its way to me sooner in my life because I think it (as any great quote does) gave me clarity on something that I had observed, but never synthesized into an actual idea. There are other quotes and references that address this same concept, but this is the only one that spells out to us that depression and anxiety are both remedied by your own actions; actions that can only be taken in the present.

Each of us comes with our own perceptions of what therapy is and what it looks like, and most adults experience the therapeutic process through talking and reflecting with a licensed therapist. Knowing this, it’s no wonder that play therapy can be riddled with misconceptions!

Do you want to know how to hack your brain to feel better? I’d love to tell you about one of my “brain hacks” and it has to do with my favorite cranial nerve, the vagus nerve!

Before I get ahead of myself in this blog, I’ll answer the title question: What is Executive Functioning? Executive Functioning (or, EF, as the cool kids call it) is the “supervisor” or “conductor” in your brain. It helps control behaviors, emotions, and thoughts in order to achieve goals.

For parents with children experiencing suicidal ideation, non-suicidal self-injury, or any other mental health crisis, it can often feel like your world has been turned upside down. Every child is different, so, therefore, every crisis will be different. My hope is this blog will provide some helpful feedback to help parents keep putting one foot in front of the other in the event their child experiences a mental health crisis.

In the hectic world we live in, we often find that we have to remind ourselves to take a breather, and finding time to do so can be challenging. From all of the regular challenges we’ve always taken on to the challenges the pandemic has brought us, it might feel like you’re constantly wanting to take a break, and your child might feel this way too. From “regular” challenges like working to improve academic performance or decrease anxiety to pandemic-related challenges, like school transitions, children can feel more overwhelmed than ever.

Helping others feels good. Even the smallest act of kindness creates a ripple effect. When we “pay it forward,” research states it spreads to at least three degrees of separation. This means we witness someone being kind or generous to others, it not only feels good inside to us but also inspires us to want to be generous towards others, a sensation researchers have coined as “moral elevation” and “emotional contagion.” It is the small acts done repeatedly that really make a big difference. Spreading kindness in your home and spending time volunteering in your community can be an invaluable experience for your family.

‘Tis the season to begin shopping for the kids on your holiday list. Every year I struggle with what to get and feel the pressure to get the hot new “it” item. However, I have found time and time again the “it” item is quickly forgotten for the box it came in or some wooden blocks that we’ve had for years. The reason for this sometimes frustrating phenomenon is that kids love to create, make choices, and explore! Open-ended toys are perfect for this.

Understanding your child’s sensory portrait helps deepen your understanding of their sensitivities, triggers, and patterns that might be linked to dysregulated behaviors. We use our sensory systems to assess our environment for safety or threat. Each child responds differently to sensory input. Children may experience overstimulation or understimulation, both of which can contribute to emotional dysregulation. Because each child’s sensory needs are different, some children may perform better than others when overstimulated or understimulated.

For therapy treatment to be effective it’s important that caregivers understand the process of therapy and the value & effectiveness of play therapy. As play therapists, we are trained to speak a child’s language, so it’s our job to translate what’s arising in our sessions with you. Our partnership is the foundation of where healing can begin in your family.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a unique, evidence-based psychotherapeutic intervention with an emphasis on acceptance, mindfulness, self-compassion, and connecting to a grounded sense of self. The goals of ACT center on increasing distress tolerance instead of decreasing distress and symptoms (but it happens anyway). It aims to increase psychological flexibility, defined as the ability to be in and aware of the present moment while changing or persisting in behaviors that serve one’s values.

As we begin to settle into the new school year, I often find myself wondering how it's been almost two years since the start of the pandemic. In some ways, it feels like it's been an eternity whereas other days it seems as though it was just yesterday when the world came to a stop. And while more recently things are starting to feel like the “new normal,” and I feel like I’m able to navigate the world as I once did, I can’t help but acknowledge the universal grief that is all around us. Grief both in death and in the loss of what once was.

The back-to-school transition can often bring up a lot of emotions. A typical school day is filled with a multitude of stressors for a child including numerous social interactions, transitioning between activities & classrooms, various adults telling them what to do, sensory sensitivities, and academic struggles to name a few. While some children express themselves in the moment as new conflicts arise, other children are successful at “holding it together” during the school day only to come home and let it all out with you. Our first instinct might be to think, “Why are they doing this to me?” but in reality this is the first sign that you have developed a safe and secure attachment with your child.

At Ensemble Therapy, we care deeply about the “why” behind our practice of counseling. We believe there is not a “one-size-fits-all” approach to counseling; each therapist views the counseling process and their clients through a unique lens formed from years of education and experience. This means that as a client, you can choose the counselor who is the best fit for you or your child. While this freedom to choose the best-fit may sound nice at first, it can be difficult to know how to choose when there seem to be so many ways to do therapy. Not only are there lots of theories on how to practice counseling, often the language behind counseling theories is difficult to understand and apply without any previous background knowledge.

At Ensemble Therapy, we care deeply about the “why” behind our practice of counseling. We believe there is not a “one-size-fits-all” approach to counseling; each therapist views the counseling process and their clients through a unique lens formed from years of education and experience. This means that as a client, you can choose the counselor who is the best fit for you or your child. While this freedom to choose the best-fit may sound nice at first, it can be difficult to know how to choose when there seem to be so many ways to do therapy. Not only are there lots of theories on how to practice counseling, often the language behind counseling theories is difficult to understand and apply without any previous background knowledge.

At Ensemble Therapy, we care deeply about the “why” behind our practice of counseling. We believe there is not a “one-size-fits-all” approach to counseling; each therapist views the counseling process and their clients through a unique lens formed from years of education and experience. This means that as a client, you can choose the counselor who is the best fit for you or your child. While this freedom to choose the best-fit may sound nice at first, it can be difficult to know how to choose when there seem to be so many ways to do therapy. Not only are there lots of theories on how to practice counseling, often the language behind counseling theories is difficult to understand and apply without any previous background knowledge.